A True Relationship: Two Imperfect People Refusing to Give Up – Tymoff

Introduction

Lovers are expected to live happily ever after which means that the union is without issues or problems. But the fact of the matter is that no relationship is ever about two flawless individuals coming into each other’s lives. Instead, it is about two flawed people who decide not to surrender each other no matter the circumstances they come across. There is a lot of truth in saying that ‘a true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up’, which describes a firm and continued love and loyalty. That is why in this article, we are to look at the meaning of this phrase and how it can be used in real-life relationships.

Cherishing the Myth of the Perfect Relationship

In today’s world people are being given a message that perfect relationships are possible by movies, social networks, and even personal expectations. These lofty expectations of love mean that every flaw is immediately noticed, and every problem viewed as a signal that the relationship is heading for the rocks. But let me tell you the bitter fact that no relationship is perfect and it has its own imperfections. People come with their flaws, issues, and past experiences to a relationship and it is very unwise to begin a relationship with high expectations, as this can lead to anger and frustration.

The myth of perfection is particularly unhelpful in relationships because it means that rather than appreciating what is there, people will be obsessed with what is missing. This kind of mentality brings about dissatisfaction in the relationship whereby one or both partners feel that the relationship is not satisfactory as per the set standards. Actually, in a healthy relationship, the goal is not in looking for a flawless partner, but to learn to appreciate the flaws that one’s beloved has.

Embracing Imperfections

If one wants to foster a long-term relationship, then it means that one should accept the flaws that he or she possesses and those of the partner. This means accepting the fact that both of you are not infallible and that is okay to be so. Indeed, it is these flaws that define us and make us endearing in otherwise ordinary ways. Accepting flaws can help foster that there is a better understanding of one another because people are more likely to open up when they know that the other person accepts them for who they are.

Such a form of openness is a part of intimacy because it enables the partners to be authentic in the relationship without the possibility of rejection. By such an understanding, it is clear that when both partners are willing to reveal their weaknesses to each other, then he or she is creating an environment that is conducive for growth. It creates a level of trust that is needed for a relationship to grow and be healthy between two individuals.

The Power of Commitment

Another important aspect of a ‘real’ relationship is commitment. Showers said, ‘When two flawed people get involved in a relationship, the two have to agree to stand by each other even during the hardest of times.’ This commitment is not only a promise to be together in the times of happiness, but also in the times of sorrow which every couple experience in their relationships.

It means being there for one another in the thick of things; not just when it is convenient and easy. It means preferring to stay and fight through the conflict, through the communication breakdowns and through the problems. It also means giving each other strength in the aspects of individual development and transformation as both partners do with time. In committed relationship, both partners are aware that love is not always a rosy affair, but it is a process that is worth to be undertaken.

Refusing to Give Up

The phrase ‘refusing to give up’ is the essence of any relationship. It represents the commitment, the strength that is required to hold a healthy and long term relationship. There will always be times when a couple will doubt each other, get frustrated or even in pain. Nevertheless, it is the component of perseverance that makes the difference between a healthy and a fragile one.

Staying together is the concept of repeatedly selecting each other as partners, even when things are not easy. It means understanding that there will always be problems and issues in a relationship and no relationship is perfect and all problems can be solved through time, communication and mutual understanding. It also means being ready to invest more effort in the development of the partnership, for instance, through talking, visiting a therapist or just dating.

In a true relationship the two people are willing to work it, therefore they both are in agreement that love is not an end point. They know that is is not going to be easy, there will be some high’s and low’s, but they are ready to tackle them. It is in this way that the shared commitment not to quit is what enables the relationship to gradually evolve and to deepen over time.

The Role of Communication

Communication is key in any and every relationship and this particularly holds truth when it comes to handling the flaws and issues that come with it. Couples can be comfortable to share their emotions, wants and fears with their partners and get empathy from them. It also helps to avoid the times when misunderstanding accumulates and resentment grows in one party while the other remains ignorant.

In a real life, every couple is to be involved in honest and non-abusive conversation even with the issues that are uncomfortable to discuss. They do not interrupt each other and do not judge the other but they try to hear what the other one has to say. Such a level of communication assists in creating a good rapport and healthy working relationship since trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship.

Conclusion

A real relationship is not when two people without flaws meet each other but when two failures decide not to leave. It is about accepting the imperfections of one’s partner, making a decision to stay together and making conscious efforts to overcome all the adversities that may confront the couple. By accepting the fact that love is a process which may be smooth sailing sometimes and turbulent at other times, both partners will be able to plan and work towards the future of the marriage. Love is never perfect and a true relationship is the ability to accept this fact and not leave the other person.